Friday, 20 February 2015

Do you want a long distance relationship work

Long distance relationships are definitely risky, and if you are unfortunate enough to be far away from your significant other, the prospect of potentially ruining your relationship can seem daunting. Just because long distance relationships are difficult, doesn't mean they're impossible. Simple adjustments to your attitude and lifestyle can help you keep your loved one in your life.

1.Communicate in some way every day, more than once if possible.

2.Work around your schedule.

3.Try to make the time to visit each other as often as possible.

4.Get to know each other.

5.Support each other, even over the distance.

These five ways are the most important.

Thursday, 19 February 2015

The popular ways to get six pack abs for girls




Try the "bicycle" workout. This can help you get abs fast. Lie on your back, (with your back flat on the floor), lift your legs up, and move them as if you are peddling a bicycle. Put your hands behind your head, and every time you move one of your legs toward your face, touch it with your elbow. For example, when your left leg comes toward you, touch it with your right elbow.

2. Lift your weight. Take two chairs of equal height, and rest your forearms on them, then pick your legs up off the floor in an up and down position. But be careful that you don't slip or fall.

Sunday, 15 February 2015

Know that you are pregnant or not?

Notice when you've missed your period. Some females track their cycles, and some don't, so you may not notice that you haven't had your period until a little while after you've missed it.

  • Think back to the last time that you had your period. Attach the timing of your period to an event. For example, were you menstruating when you went on a vacation or when you went to a concert? If you haven't had a period in more than 30 days, and you're sexually active, then you could be pregnant.
  • If you have an irregular period, then you should test for pregnancy often if you're sexually active. This is especially important if you drink alcohol regularly, smoke or use recreational drugs so that you don't harm the fetus during the first trimester.
  • Saturday, 14 February 2015

    How to Break up With Someone on Valentine's Day

    If timing is everything, then breaking up with someone on Valentine’s Day may be one of the most difficult days to get out of a relationship. On the other hand, the very fact that this is Valentine's Day may feel like the last straw in a relationship that has started failing badly from your perspective, given that you have to act romantic and dedicated; you may even be worried that you'll be liable to do or say something stupid that might really hurt your current date's feelings if you aren't as honest as possible about how you don't think the relationship's working anymore. Indeed, studies have shown that Valentine's Day is a common day for breakups, with 47 percent of couples choosing this day to break up.
     1. Identify the reason why you want to break up. Initially, it's probably because you've lost that "loving feeling." However, it's important to explore your reasons so that you can come up with plausible and kindly ways to extract yourself from the relationship.
    Choose three reasons why you want to break up. Multiple reason break ups may be a little more difficult to analyze in terms of ways to craft your break up to your advantage, however you can break down the reason and look for similarities. Even if there are 50 reasons you want out, select the top three glaring reasons to use as a reference.
    Look for a connection between the reasons to arrive at one main theme. For example, if your significant other has a negative attitude, makes fun of people and talks behind others’ backs, you can conclude that the main reason behind your wanting to break up is because he or she is bringing toxic energy to your life. However, if you simply don’t have chemistry, have conflicting schedules and perhaps want to date someone else, you could have a case where you are dating wrong person at the wrong time.
     2. Assess why you want to choose Valentine's day to break up on. Is it because you just can't bear the thought of having to go through the day living a lie? Is it because you haven't been free to catch up with your date until this day? Is it because a huge event has been planned for the day and it has catapulted you into realizing that the relationship is fizzing but you still have to go through with booked and paid for plans? Maybe you think that it's a day in which you can explain away the breakup by showing that there is plenty of love to go around, as seen by all the romantic couples about. For some people, it's a reawakening of purpose with the first signs of being able to get fresh air after months of cabin fever; it's a holiday that marks a change of pace since New Year and therefore holds significance in terms of moving on. The reason for choosing to break up on Valentine's Day may not even strike you until you're going through the relationship motions on the day itself, with the romance bringing out a sudden realization that you're unhappy with this person. Whatever the reason, decide if this is the right day to be breaking up.
    Conflict is common on Valentine's Day, especially where one partner is romantic and the other is cynical and views the day as a marketing ploy and detests it. This can easily give rise to other feelings about the direction of the relationship in general and compatibility. Interestingly, it can actually be the romantic partner who initiates a Valentine's Day breakup because things didn't turn out perfectly from the moment the day started––be aware of this!
     3. Determine the time of day you’ll lower the boom. Evening on Valentine’s Day is usually the roughest time to break up. Valentine’s Day night is a time when couples go to dinner or go on dates––not a great time to turn your steady into your ex. However, breaking up with someone in the morning will leave him or her miserable for the entire day, which may have negative consequences on your life (such as phone calls coming from your new ex all day or having him or her come to your office to talk about the break up even further). Rather than choosing “day” or “night” think about both of your schedules. When will you have the most time to properly discuss the break up, but avoid having the conversation coincide with the height of romance? Also, have you noticed that your boyfriend/girlfriend seems to be more rational or open minded earlier or later in the day? Find a time during Valentine’s Day when you think he or she may take the news the best (if it's at all possible to assume that).
    If you had already booked plans to do something together, perhaps suggest that you're happy to arrange for his or her friend or sibling to go along in your stead after you've broken up. At least they'll still get a meal out or an activity experience. Judge the worth of this suggestion according to the person and the context; it might even be you who chooses to go out with someone else platonic for the evening!
     4. Choose an unromantic location. Unfortunately, romance is even sprinkled on your rigatoni on Valentine’s Day, so finding an unromantic location may be slightly impossible. Avoid cozy restaurants where you’ll have to see couples nuzzling and celebrating. Also, places like the movies, cafes, the beach or historical monuments or statues with romantic connotations (such as the Empire State Building in New York City) are places to avoid like the plague. Other places to avoid include your house, the office, at someone’s wedding, at a relative’s house, in your car or by text or phone. While that may seem as though the only place that is safe for a breakup on Valentine’s Day is in outer space, places that may work include a community park or any other public area that isn’t full of happy couples and big red hearts and roses splashed throughout the landscape, taking a walk along a beach or in the woods, a quiet cafe or even their house if you're concerned about their fragility.
     5. Prepare your approach. Choose a politely worded and plausible reason why you want to break up and select the best time of day and place to formulate your approach to the break up. Because this may be the most delicate break up of your dating career, you will want to construct and prepare what you plan to say well before Valentine’s Day:
    Write down a concise, straight forward reason as to why you want to break up. Don’t be mean or take shots at the other person’s character or personality (even it the reason you want to break up is because of their personality), but be sure the person understands that you are breaking up with them and why. For example, if the reason you want to break up with your girlfriend is because she is negative, tell her that you need to make a break because the relationship is impacting your life in a negative way.
    Keep your break up speech to under 20 minutes. Dragging it out and talking it over can become a long, more painful process for both of you. If the other person suspects that you plan to break up with him or her, the shorter the speech the better. If this will come as a total surprise, you may want to build in some time where you can allow the other person to digest and ask questions. Avoid exceeding an hour to break up because after 60 minutes of trying to convey three simple words––let’s break up––your intent can become diluted and your break up resolve might weaken.
    6. Practice your delivery. Stand in front of the mirror and practice your delivery. Pay close attention to your facial expressions while you are delivering the news. Cultivate a caring, concerned expression, but also one that is focused, serious and firm. You want your soon-to-be ex to know you mean business but at the same time, you aren’t trying to be mean. Practice your delivery several times until you feel as if you are ready.
    7. Be on time to your break up meeting with your boyfriend/girlfriend. Be respectful and arrive on time, ready to get down to business. If he or she is late, allow for at least 15 minutes and then either call or send a text to confirm that you will be having the meeting.
    8. Stick to your guns. During the break-up don’t allow the other person’s reaction to sway your resolve. If need be, recall why you wanted to break up with the other person and why you needed to do it on Valentine’s Day (and couldn't wait until another day). Be strong. Even though Valentine’s Day is not the best day to end an relationship, remember that breaking up will ultimately be what’s best for both parties involved and that in all likelihood, you're not the only couple breaking ties this holiday.

    How to Make Valentine's Day More Meaningful

    Forget the mass-marketed, red-hearted Valentine's Day pressure that starts heating up about now. Steer clear of high-priced flowers, tasteless candy hearts and stuffed bears. Follow these tips to make a significant other feel cherished. Show that Valentine's Day means more than romance and gifts. It means that person is the focus of your caring attention, dutiful doting and loving affection.
     1. Concentrate on your partner. Focus on how special they are to you. Instead of stressing about the perfect Valentine's gift, think about all the fun, silly, spunky, sexy, serious, and loving things that this person does for you. Think about who he or she is. What makes them smile? What are they truly passionate about? What small little things could you do every day that would make them feel more loved?
     2. Under-promise and over-deliver. Make promises early and make them often—just keep them. No emergency is more important than love. Show your love and respect by honoring your time together and your commitments. Leave work early and call them on the way home to say you just couldn't wait to see them. Ask if they'd like you to pick up something special before you get there.
     3. Be a mirror. We reflect the world around us, the good, the bad and the ugly. Be mindful of your partner's moods. When you're approached with love and joy, mirror it back and they'll feel especially loved and close to you.
     4. Note it. Love notes are a sure way to inspire a loving connection every day of the year. They don't all have to be sappy poems. Buy a calendar, keep it in the bathroom and write a reason a day that you appreciate and admire your one-and-only. Follow the object of your affection to the store or the dry cleaners and leave a note on their car in the parking lot. Drop them in a purse or write them on the bathroom mirror with a dry erase pen for a pleasant surprise to wake up to.
     5. Plan a dream date that won't cost you a dime. Tell this person that the only topic of conversation is to hear about their dreams, what they love, what they want to do before leaving the planet, what they'd like to learn, where they'd like to travel, and who they most admire. Let them talk freely without stopping and then write a few down later and help create those dreams.
     6. Prepare a romantic meal or just pick up restaurant delivery on the way home or have one of the online gourmet delivery options deliver a five-course meal to your doorstep. Dim the lights. Play Sinatra or another one of their favorites and tidy up the kitchen , too!
    7. Make the very last moment of your day together special by kissing them softly, accommodating a simple request like water or Kleenex, pulling the covers up to their chin, touching their forehead and telling them how much they're valued.

    How to Celebrate Valentine's Day

    Valentine's Day sets back to around 3rd century in Europe, according to a legend. The legend's love and affection has been carried on throughout history. February 14th is the day to spread the love and exchange affectionate gifts to one another. Here is an article of how to celebrate Valentine's Day.
    1. Spend quality time with a loved one. Go out to a nice restaurant or create a special dinner. Cuddle with your significant other on a couch and watch a movie. Try to avoid distractions, such as surfing the internet, chatting on the phone while around people, or deciding to do other things by yourself or with another group of people.
     2. Make a homemade card for someone. The card will have more meaning to it if it's created by you instead of buying a card from a store. Use your own words to describe the person you're giving it to. Create a poem or a note of appreciation. Add a little "copyrighted" symbol on the back of the card for fun.
     3. Think of candy, chocolate, and sweets. If you are getting something for a school classmate, get a small box of those sugary hearts with the little sayings on them. If you wish, you can make a chocolate recipe along with someone else on Valentine's Day.
     4. Express your words with a rose. While lavender (or purple) are seen more on first dates and secret "love at first sight" times, white roses are a tradition for weddings. Pink, orange, and yellow roses are viewed as admiration, excitement, and friendship respectively. The yellow and pink are very similar and can be used for the same events. Finally, the red rose, as the color expresses and emphasizes beauty and love. Red roses are traditionally exchanged by couples and people whom wish to express their feelings towards another.
    5. Enjoy Valentine's Day alone. Who says that people need a companion for this one day of the year? Treat yourself to a spa or a long bubble bath. Take a long drive and enjoy the scenery. If it's too snowy or iced down, stay in and watch sports games or that romantic movie on cable. Some people get lucky on this day.

    How to Get Over a Cheating Boyfriend

    It's hard enough getting over a breakup. But when you're getting over a guy who cheated, it's even tougher. Discovering that your boyfriend has cheated on you can be one of the worst emotional pains imaginable. Use this guide to help move on with your life.its never to late to love.
     1. Arrange to meet with him face to face. Text messaging, by letter, email, or over the phone breakups never are clear. Be absolutely sure he is cheating on you. Tell him what you feel. Talk it out, no matter how long it takes. There is no other way you can develop a sense of closure.
     2. Look in the mirror.Tell yourself you are beautiful and smart, and that the cheater does not deserve you. They aren't worthy of your time, energy, or thoughts. They cheated because they weren't secure enough in themselves.
     3. Go out with your friends. Do something for the first time. Distract yourself from the pain. It will hurt for a while, but it does not need to consume you.
     4. Indulge yourself. Treat yourself to a spa or getaway, or pamper yourself at home. Eat some of your favorite chocolate. Get a manicure. Whatever makes you feel better.
     5. Promise yourself you'll learn from your mistakes. Look back on any warning signs or red flags that you ignored that would show he was cheating. Vow to not be fooled again and to look more carefully for a guy who cares enough to be faithful.
     6. Don't get jaded. Just because one boyfriend cheated on you doesn't mean they all will.
     7. Don't blame yourself, instead tell yourself that you are beautiful and he made the biggest mistake by losing you.
     8. Let him go, and accept the fact that he cheated, if you keep him it's possible he may go back cheating.
     9. Smile and live life to the fullest.
     10. Don't close your heart, just be careful around guys but give it a try one more time when you are sure that another guy is truly sincere.
    11. Make yourself feel hot--whatever that means for you. You know if he sees you he'll totally regret cheating on you and know how much of an idiot he is!

    How to Easily Read Faces and Facial Expressions

    It is much easier to read facial expressions and find out what someone is feeling than is believed. You will learn how to recognize 'micro-expressions' small facial expressions that show what a person is feeling.

     1. Before trying to read anyone's face, teach yourself to recognize 'micro-expressions'. These are small facial expressions, a different one for whenever someone is feeling an increase in any different emotion. They are:
    Happiness - A smile, quite an obvious one, however, if there is no wrinkling, increase in puffiness or general muscle movement around the eyes, the person is faking the smile.
    Sadness - Eyebrows up, lips down-turned. Eyebrows up can also mean the person is feeling guilty
    Contempt - One corner of the mouth rises, like a sort of 'half-smile'. In extreme contempt, the person's mouth shifts over in an odd way.
    Disgust - The top lip is raised, showing the teeth in extreme cases, like a scorn.
    Surprise - Gaping mouth with eyebrows raised. If this expression lasts longer than a second, the person is faking it.
    Fear - Eyebrows raised and lower part of the mouth lowered in extreme cases. Swallowing also indicates fear.
    Anger - Lips tightened, flaring nostrils, eyebrows pulled down and together are all signs of anger.
     2. Start looking. When you've taught yourself to recognize micro-expressions try looking for them in people you see everyday.
    3. Carry a mirror around you all the time. Not just to see if you look nice but to study your face when you feel a certain emotion. How does your eyes go when you are happy, how does your expression turn to when you are frustrated with such terrible customer attendance? Then look for these expression in people.
    4. Establish a 'baseline' in the person you're looking for micro-expressions in. A baseline is their normal muscle activity when feeling little or no emotion. Ask them normal questions. Take mental note of their muscle activity when telling the truth. You're pretty much done. Just look for micro-expressions and try and fit them in with what the person is saying.

    How to Use Reverse Psychology

    Reverse psychology refers to getting another person to do or say something by telling them the opposite of what is desired. It's a form of manipulation that has questionable success.

     1. Know who reverse psychology works on. Some people just don't respond to reverse psychology. The people who do are mostly the ones who hate being told what to do. They care more about the power struggle itself than what the struggle is about. Rebellious children are classic examples. Basically, anyone with a sensitive ego that clouds their judgment is susceptible.
     2. Wait until they get worked up. It's much easier to use reverse psychology when someone is emotional, since you want to trigger an immediate reaction. The more you argue back and forth, the more of a power struggle it becomes, and the more the other person will want to "win".
     3. Say the opposite of what you're arguing, but in the same tone. Eventually, what the person is fighting about is not the subject of the argument, but your attempt to dominate them in some way. And soon, they're arguing with the way you're saying things, rather than what you're saying. For example, you're trying to get a roommate to clean the toilet. For a while you've been saying things like "You should clean the toilet because it's disgusting" and "I always end up having to clean it". Then start saying things like "Fine, stop cleaning the toilet, I don't care! I want people to see how disgusting you keep the bathroom! I want people to see what a slob and a pig you can be!" Odds are, the person will respond by saying "I'll clean the toilet whenever I want!"
    An alternative approach is to say "Fine, I give up. You win." Some people will respond by realizing that they were just being adversarial. They didn't really want to win, they wanted you to keep arguing with them because they got caught up in the power struggle. When they actually do win, they feel bad that they "won" over something that meant a lot more to you than it did to them, as if they took something from you by making it so difficult.
     4. Push it further. Following with the toilet example, say "No! Forget it. I'm getting rid of the cleaning supplies. You don't use them anyway, and I'm not using them anymore either." Now you're dominating by roping off an activity, which a rebellious, reactionary person will not appreciate.
    5. Call their bluff. If they start saying they'll do what you wanted them to do in the first place, but on their terms, say "I don't believe you!" Add in some statements that will trigger their ego, like "You never finish what you start" or "You won't clean the toilet as well as I do anyway".
    Sometimes you can use this step on its own, like betting someone that they can or can't do something. "The reason you don't clean your room is because you're bad at it...I bet you can't keep your room clean for a month!"

    6. Be ready to follow through. Don't make empty threats. If you said you'd stop cleaning the toilet, stop cleaning the toilet, and that the other person will see how disgusting a toilet can really get. If you do succumb and start cleaning the toilet again, though, the other person will feel like they won, and will continue to rebel with increased fervor. So unless you're willing to follow through, don't use reverse psychology. Does it matter more to desire freedom from (objective) sins or from physical and personal disagreements? Which freedom is profound and therefore more needed for (peacefulness) truthfulness?